Alcoholics more than others, hold on to old hurts and never seem to be able to let go. It’s almost like a tape that is constantly replayed over and over. Some clam up and internalize their anger, while others blow up and explode. Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent. That person has most likely forgotten about you and gone on with their life, as you continue to stew in your pain. Page 64 of the Big Book states: “.Resentment is the “number one” offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else”.
I have heard many in the Rooms of A.A. state, “resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die”.Why give the person that hurt you so much power, that you would drink yourself to death over them. Or is it a good way of telling ourselves it’s ok not to seek help for my addiction, because I have been hurt? Really?“The person who seeks revenge should dig two graves” Chinese proverb.