Step Three


Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him

When we admit our powerlessness over our addiction, we learn an important truth: there are some things in our lives we simply can’t control.  We weren’t always in control of what we did to satisfy our cravings or how we behaved on a binge.  It can be a humbling and scary experience to see how little control we may have over some of our behaviors.

Besides our addictions, there are many more things we can’t control.  Although we may try to get things to go our way, other people continue to do what they want and situations don’t always go in our favor.  This can leave us feeling frustrated, angry, and resentful.

We try to control in various ways.  Many of us use helplessness or dishonesty or guilt to get the results we want.  Or we try to “fix” or “take care of” things, even if no one needs our help.  And sometimes we use our sexuality to get power over other people – either to punish or reward them.  Or we may try to maintain control by bullying or threatening others into cooperating with us.

We might use these tactics deliberately, but not maliciously.  When we want to control, or fix, or influence a situation , it is often because we’re frightened and anxious.  We may be trying to avoid feeling completely powerless.  It’s depressing to feel that we always have to submit in someone else’s demands or that life is leading us in directions we don’t want to go.  The problem is that we get caught up in the struggle of trying to control thing that we can’t.

When we are caught in this struggle, it’s like trying to carry a burden that’s too heavy.  All our available energy goes into balancing the weight to keep ourselves from falling over.  We stagger under the weight, and we can’t do anything else until we set it down and let it go.

Step Three tells us we can let go of our burden.  When we let go, something or someone else can take over.  Now we can be free to live with new, creative energy.

“None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith.”
― Paulo Coelho

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