People who are perfectionists tend to see the world in black and white. We often feel like we’re superhuman, able to take on anything, until we discover a flaw. then we come crashing down and consider ourselves completely worthless. This “all or nothing” way of thinking can be very dangerous to our recovery.
We work hard to please other people, but we can grow dangerously discouraged if things don’t seem to work. This tendency is something for us to watch for while working the steps. If we don’t allow ourselves to be less than perfect, we may find that we are at great risk when life reminds us that we are only human after all.
That also goes for the people in our lives, at times we put so much expectation on someone that they are bound to fail us and/or retaliate against us. Let us live, but also let live.
“If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.”
― Ecclesiastes 11:4