Most of us don’t welcome the idea of letting go because it’s frightening. Who or what will take charge of our lives if we don’t? We may mistakenly believe that we can prevent more pain if we just keep holding on.
It’s easy to think this way as long as we believe that we’re responsible for everything. But are we? The fact is, we can only be responsible for ourselves – our own actions and attitudes. Everything else is beyond our control. In AA we hear the Serenity Prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.
I can’t count the number of times I’ve said the Serenity Prayer in my recovery. I say it often to help me step back from my situation and see the bigger picture. True to its name, it calms me and then helps me remember that the universe isn’t always going to cooperate with my wishes and plans.
The Serenity Prayer can remind us to look for guidance from the spiritual power that we have discovered for ourselves in Step Two. Then in Step Three we decide to let this spirit or power guide life, rather than trying to control life ourselves. We simply make a decision to connect with our Higher Power.
“When you are in trouble and worried and sick at heart
And your plans are upset and your world falls apart,
Remember God’s ready and waiting to share
The burden you find much to heavy to bear–
So with faith, “Let Go and Let GOD” lead your way
Into a brighter and less troubled day”
― Helen Steiner Rice